Some Questions Asked

1. How can you tell if you are homo- or bisexual? I’d be intereted in experiencing sex with my own sex but I don’t know how to approach my friends. Does it just happen or does one have to instigate it?

2. What were your parents’ reactions toward your sexual tendencies. What about your siblings?

3. Has the AIDS scare held you back from meeting people? How do you feel about it?

4. To the woman: Have you ever been sexually involved with a gay male friend?

5. Do you consider yourself strictly homosexual? Would you be (or are you ever) attracted to the opposite sex?

6. Why do men who aren’t gay get so offended by gay men when women who aren’t gay aren’t as offended by gay women?

7. How did you accept yourself when you found yourself being gay?

8. Does all the publicity and hype about AIDS bother you and has it affected your outlook on homosexuality.

9. What is it you prefer in your own sex? What do you look for?

10. Did anyone know about you in high schoool and, if so, did you have any pressures?

11. How do you think your sexual preference affects (or would affect) your children?

12. Do you know when you became gay?

13. What did your friends say? How did they react? How do your friends who are not homosexual act around you?

14. How much prejudice do you run into on a day-to-day basis?

15. How old were you when you discovered you were gay?

16. Do you think that movies that deal with homosexuality, such as Kiss of the Spider Woman, are harmful or helpful to the gay community?

17. Aren’t you a little apprehensive in choosing your sex partners when there are diseases such as AIDS? How do you know if they have it .... even if they tell you they don’t?

18. Why do there seem to be so many gays in this area than other places? Are there really more or are they just more visible?

19. How is your religious life affected? Isn’t being with someone of the same sex supposed to be a big sin?

20. Has your sexuality hindered you from achieving any goals for yourself?

21. What made you decide to be gay? Would you ever want to change and go back to being “straight”?

22. Did you date the opposite sex in high school or college?

23. Do you find that being in the Bay Area makes it more comfortable for you to be openly gay?

24. How do you  feel when your best friend brings home a lover?

25. How many gay friends do you have?

26. Do you feel general resentment towards heterosexuals for their own often narrow-minded views on your choice of homosexuality?

27. How do you feel when someone turns you down?

28. Why do so many gays wear leather clothes?  Are they the trying tp project the image of the tough gay man?

29. What incidents/feelings were involved in your transtion from heterosexual to lesbian/gay?

30. I saw a guy on a show who said he was once gay but is now a heterosexual. What do you think about that?

31. Have you ever thought about having children? How would you have one?

32. Have you ever had two people of opposite sexes that you have had relationships with run into each other?

33. What are your feelings about gay/lesbian marriage? Can gay couples get married?

34. Is sex with someone of the same sex as fulfilling as with someone of the opposite sex?

35. To the woman: How do you know when you’ve had sex?

36. I notice that many gay men have a feminine attitude, like in their speech and mannerisms. Do gay men just slowly conform to that or is it hereditary?

37. How can you think it is OK to be homosexual when it goes against human biology?

38. Where do you meet other guys?

39. How do approach someone that you’re attracted to if you don’t know whether they are gay or not?

40. How can you be very active heterosexually and then suddenly switch?

41. Do you openly (in public) hold or kiss each other?

42. How did you approach your first gay relationship and who was the “pressurer?”

43. Have you ever wished you were straight?

44. For the man: Did you ever fantasize about being a woman instead of a man? Would you want to have a sex change?

45. How do you think a child would feel raised by two  parents of the same sex? Wouldn’t it be extremely different and difficult?

46. How do you think a parent’s being gay affects a child’s relationsips? Do you want your kids to be gay?

47. What are your parents like? How did your relationship affect your sexuality?

48. When you discovered that you were gay did it come as a shock to you? Was it hard to deal with?

49. How do old high school friends treat you after they find out that you are gay? Do they still remain your friends?

50. How has your lifestyle changed since AIDS became an epidemic?

51. What is it about people of the same sex that attracts you more than people of the opposite sex?

52. Is there anyone in this class you could tell is gay? If so, probably how many?

53. Do you have many girlfriends/boyfriends at one time or just one?

54. How do women have sex with their lovers?

55. Do you ever have feelings for the opposite sex?

56. Is sex better with a man or with a woman?

57.  How do you react when other people over-react to your being gay? How does it make you feel?

58. Do you think that people who aren’t gay are missing something?

59. Did your life change drastically when you discovered you were gay?

60. Why don’t you just form your own community instead of trying to get accepted by people who don’t want you?

61. What do you do when people are cutting gays down and they don’t know you are?

62. In gay relationships, does one partner always play the man and the other play the woman?

63. Was being gay a choice for you?

64. What made you decide to become part of a speakers group like this?

65. Would you feel comfortable taking your  lover to a company picnic or a class reunion?

66. Traditionally, men and women have communication problems. Is communiation easier with a lover of the same sex?

67. What was it like in high school for you guys? Did you date members of the opposite sex even though you were attracted to your own sex.

68. How do you work out a financial arrangement in your relationship.

69 Have you ever been tested for AIDS. Do you ask potential partners that?

70. How far do you go showing affection in public?

71. Did you feel ashamed after your first sexual experience with someone of the same sex?

72. Does it bother you to be considered “abnormal” as in “not  straight”.

73. How do you feel about yourself? Are you happy and content with your life?

74. Are any of your brothers and sisters gay?

75. Is it hard to have friends of the same sex who aren’t homosexual because they are fearful that other people will think they are gay too?

76. Why would someone want to have sex with someone of the same sex instead of the natural male-female sex relationship?

77. Did you yourself ridicule gays when you were younger?

78. Don’t you feel less than masculine/feminine?

79. A lot of heterosexuals think gays are “gross”. Do you feel the same way about them?

80. If you could have a fulfilling relationship with someone of the opposite sex, would you?

81. Are you angry that you got “stuck” with being homosexual?

82. How do you keep the spark alive?

83. Do you and your boyfriend/girlfriend communicate in the same way your parents do? Do homosexual couples have the same kinds of problems that heterosexual couples do?

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